Oh What Tangled Web We Weave..


“Oh what a tangled web we weave,
When first we practise to deceive!”

Sir Walter Scott

As I walked by this web this morning, this quote buy Sir Walter Scott  came to mind. Honesty has always been so very important to me.  I try to be honest in all my dealings and respect and admire those to strive to do so as well. It can be tricky sometimes. For instance, I have found myself having to decide if I should tell someone the truth even though I knew it would likely hurt them.  I have also been in a spot where I had to decide if I should break a confidence because I believed doing to would ultimately benefit that person. Perhaps you too, have found yourself in similar situations and struggled with what to do.

A few years ago I attended a workshop at BYU  taught by Dr. Quinn McKay, Author of “Is Lying Sometimes the Right Thing for an Honest Person to do.”  It was an engaging and  fascinating discussion about honesty and integrity and how often in today’s world people justify dishonesty for a number of reasons. We discussed an example of a corporation sending out a batch of checks unsigned, in order to buy time buy time to make sufficient deposits to cover them. Was that deliberate stall dishonest? He shared a story of a time when the Boy Scouts of America, short of the funds needed to maintain their charter in a particular area, falsified the numbers in order to continue their work, justifying their actions for the good of their very worthy cause. Was that dishonest act justified?

Dr Mckay used a variety of real life examples of people who did not straight up lie, but left out some important details, in essence leading the other person to draw their own inaccurate conclusions.

So interesting all! I very much enjoyed the workshop and the book. My take away from both is this a new personal definition of honesty.

“Honesty is not just to tell the truth, but to convey a true impression.”

May we strive each day to be an example of honesty and integrity in all we do.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: